Who Came to Mind?

I have one intention today: to help you think about someone in your life who could benefit from this. That person might be you.

One of the reasons I wrote Start With What If is that I've seen how intentional change and growth show up in places people don't expect. Not just in big decisions, but in everyday moments that quietly shape relationships, careers, and overall happiness.

In the book, I tell the story of a woman who found herself repeatedly irritated by her husband leaving cabinet doors open. Her automatic reaction was to assume it meant he wasn't listening or didn't care. That assumption brought tension into moments that should have passed quickly.

When she paused and asked a different question, her response changed. The irritation didn't linger. The moment didn't escalate. Over time, those small shifts softened the dynamic between them. The behavior didn't need to change for the relationship to feel better.

That's a relationship example. Here's how the same principle shows up at work.

David quietly believed he wasn't "a tech person." He avoided new tools and talked himself out of applying for a leadership role that required project software. A less experienced colleague got the job. Eventually, David stopped treating that belief as permanent. He watched some tutorials, asked for help, and applied for the next opening. He got it.

The technology was never the real barrier. The story he believed was.

Once you start questioning old assumptions in one area, you notice them everywhere. In how you handle tension. In how you approach opportunities. In how much mental space and ease you carry through your days.

Start With What If is designed to help you build that mindset in a practical, repeatable way. Not by fixing yourself, but by helping you see different perspectives and better options when they matter most.

As one reviewer put it, "Truly, anyone can apply this book to better their life overall."

If someone came to mind while reading this, they're ready for this book. Get them a copy. It's under $20, available in paperback, eBook, and audiobook.

Outcomes include stronger relationships. More clarity in their decisions. The mental space to see opportunities. Higher performance at work.

Or if that person is you—don't wait. Get your book here.